- Someone will be interested in you or not. The best thing you can do is be yourself as much as possible. It doesn’t matter who you are with or what you are doing as long as you are being yourself.
- Learn to give yourself the attention and adoration you desire.
- Develop your relationship with your inner being who is an endless source of attention and adoration.
- All relationships are a practice, even the one with your own inner being. Allow space and time for them to develop. Allow for the ebb and flow.
- The only thing of permanence is change. People, places, and things are in our space or “possession” for different reasons – for us to take care of them, for us to learn from them, for us to experience them – they do not really belong to us.
- No outside person can convince you of your worth. If you feel someone is “settling” for you, look at where you are “settling” for things in your life. Use it as a mirror.
- Instead of fearing that “no one will ever make me feel the way she/he/they did”, use that experience as evidence of what is possible.
- No matter what happens, you can handle it. Sometimes with more grace than others, but you will figure it out, one way or another.
- Noticing something is wrong or dissatisfying is the first step – gold star! Celebrate the noticing.
- Be vulnerable. When asking for what you want or negotiating boundaries, it’s good to be vulnerable and transparent so there is deeper connection and understanding.
- Focus on feeling good, raising your vibration, and feeling the power of the present moment. No matter how bad it is, when you do these things life is good.
- Worry is like a prayer for what you don’t want. Relax and release. Notice, witness, relax, release.
- Identify your shortcomings, defects of character, your shadow, and learn to love those parts of yourself. Play with them. Ask them what they need.
- Practice being the witness to your thoughts, noticing when habitual thinking is taking place. Release judgment on yourself and practice presence.
- Know that you can stay turned-on and orgasmic through anything and everything with practice. Let go of old habits that no longer serve you. Notice old fears for what they are – old programs running in the background.
- Remember your magic and your ability to choose who you are. Post reminders around your space if you need to.
- Remember that you get to decide what things mean and that you can choose to make them mean something good.
- How you treat yourself is a choice once you become aware. Pay attention, notice, and start releasing self-judgment. Make overt choices to do things that are nice for yourself and others. Treat your relationship with yourself like any other relationship and see that it takes attention and energy. Be open to giving it space and going with the ebb and flow.
- Make the decision that you are at choice in your life, that what you do does affect your experience, and then notice what you are choosing. Having is evidence of wanting – whatever situation you have in your life is a result of your desires. If you don’t consciously like what you are experiencing, see if some other unconscious part of you does. When you find that part love on it and congratulate it.